Young Metro Poly

(via quickminder, polyamory)

Sat, 12 May 2012 14:31:11 -0400

somethingtransy: projectunbreakable: Photographed in...

Sat, 12 May 2012 11:16:03 -0400

projectunbreakable:

Photographed in Winona, MN on April 12th.

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Powerful… and speaks to me as a trans* masculine assault survivor.

sparklesmovementnature: I’m grading.

Fri, 11 May 2012 17:46:15 -0400

sparklesmovementnature:

I’m grading.

Photo

Fri, 11 May 2012 14:21:04 -0400

I’ll admit, sometimes when I deal with...

Fri, 11 May 2012 11:07:43 -0400

I’ll admit, sometimes when I deal with “haters”, I think along these lines.

This is what drives me

Thu, 10 May 2012 17:45:39 -0400

This is what drives me

Be aware of the impact that your words make.

Thu, 10 May 2012 14:19:55 -0400

Be aware of the impact that your words make.

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Thu, 10 May 2012 11:01:51 -0400

As someone who still occasionally frets over the number on my...

Wed, 09 May 2012 17:45:56 -0400

As someone who still occasionally frets over the number on my pants label - This.

just a reminder :)

How to face adversity

Wed, 09 May 2012 14:26:26 -0400

How to face adversity

I’ve had enough of the “Team ___” fandom. This...

Wed, 09 May 2012 11:15:06 -0400

I’ve had enough of the “Team ___” fandom. This is hilarious :D

And it doesn’t mean that I want to always sleep with them...

Tue, 08 May 2012 17:46:05 -0400

And it doesn’t mean that I want to always sleep with them or “steal” them. (As if a human can own another human…)

Sometimes it means I just want to be there for them as a friend when the world turns against them.

So there. ;)

lots0flove:

I’m polyamorous.

Super boo… amandarevenge: UGH MY LIFE! =(

Tue, 08 May 2012 14:16:18 -0400

Super boo…

amandarevenge:

UGH MY LIFE! =(

meangirlsofpanem: Evil dictator? No. Mockingjay? Yes.

Tue, 08 May 2012 11:05:02 -0400

meangirlsofpanem:

Evil dictator? No. Mockingjay? Yes.

"The point for me is to create relationships based on deeper and more real notions of trust. So that..."

Mon, 07 May 2012 17:46:23 -0400

“The point for me is to create relationships based on deeper and more real notions of trust. So that love becomes defined not by sexual exclusivity, but by actual respect, concern, commitment to act with kind intentions, accountability for our actions, and a desire for mutual growth.”

- Dean Spade (via creativedreadhead)

"Telling the truth is not always easy, especially when you feel that the disclosure will hurt someone..."

Mon, 07 May 2012 14:28:29 -0400

“Telling the truth is not always easy, especially when you feel that the disclosure will hurt someone you love. But withholding information to protect someone is not only unfair to them, it is counterproductive to the relationship.”

- Tristan Taormino, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships (via gaiaslastlaugh)

Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt...

Mon, 07 May 2012 11:16:36 -0400

Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.

Polyamory also means being able to love in many different ways.

sparrowsfly:

Polyamorous pansexual, ftw.

"Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,..."

Sun, 06 May 2012 17:46:23 -0400

“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

- Don Miguel Ruiz (via creativedreadhead)

sexreeducated: Triangular Theory of Love Nonlove “refers...

Sun, 06 May 2012 15:22:39 -0400

sexreeducated:

Triangular Theory of Love

Nonlove “refers simply to the absence of all three components of love. Nonlove characterizes the large majority of our personal relationships, which are simply casual interactions.”

Liking/friendship is “used here in a nontrivial sense. Rather, it refers to the set of feelings one experiences in relationships that can truly be characterized as friendship. One feels closeness, bondedness, and warmth toward the other, without feelings of intense passion or long-term commitment.”

Infatuated love: “infatuation results from the experiencing of passionate arousal in the absence of intimacy and decision/commitment…like Tennov’s limerance.”^[5] Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. A stronger love may deteriorate into empty love. In an arranged marriage, the spouses’ relationship may begin as empty love and develop into another form, indicating “how empty love need not be the terminal state of a long-term relationship…[but] the beginning rather than the end.”

Romantic love “derives from a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love…romantic lovers are not only drawn physically to each other but are also bonded emotionally” - bonded both intimately and passionately, but without sustaining commitment.

Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. “This type of love is observed in long-term marriages where passion is no longer present” but where a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage - “fatuous in the sense that a commitment is made on the basis of passion without the stabilizing influence of intimate involvement.”

Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple.” According to Sternberg, these couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they cannot imagine themselves happier over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. “Without expression,” he warns, “even the greatest of loves can die.” Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

By far one of my favorite love theories in Psychology. I don’t know why they didn’t teach this when I was much much younger. Knowing the proper terms for how one feels about another is the first step towards emotional maturity. Nobody wants to call their feelings “Puppy Love” when “Fatuous Love” sounds so much more appropriate.

I think most of us can related to taking on the role of...

Sun, 06 May 2012 14:43:12 -0400

I think most of us can related to taking on the role of ‘relationship therapist’ for one side of a couple.

I’m trying to remind myself that “success” means teaching the person to be aware of their own behaviors and motives and to try to communicate better - not that the relationship in question lasts indefinitely. Sadly, when we take on the role of friend, confidante, and therapist and the relationship in question ends, people it fuels the “what society thinks we do” box.

Guh.